Hi Everyone,

Not sure what kind of weather you're experiencing but is sure is COLD here.........!! Bundle up!! lol

I'd posted before Christmas about a guy I'd met at a bar (brief synopsis):

-he is 44, never been married

-met him at a bar - we both had been drinking (him much more so) - he wanted to come to my place and I said no

-we ended up going out on a couple of dates (low key) - coffee, then out somewhere else on a Friday - he kissed me

-when I followed up with him a few days later and asked if he wanted to come by for pizza, his response was "Sorry Mel. I am busy for the next few days.  Keep in touch."

At the time (when I received his response) I was in getting my car worked on - had been a bad day.  I did respond to him - I said "Hmm.....guess that's a friendly brush off, huh?? :)".  Honestly, I thought he was a decent guy and I would have rather asked and got a response then just be left wondering if I should ever contact him......I did not get a response.  I have not contacted him since then.

Fast forward to this week-end.......I was at the neighbourhood pub hanging out........I had had a few, but he showed up, clearly quite drunk.  As soon as he saw me he smiled and we chatted for a bit.  He told me that he really liked me - I responded that I really liked him too.  I basically asked him what happened and he said that when he got my text back inquiring if it was a brush off, he thought I was really insecure.  I admitted to this - aren't we all insecure dating after 35 and having no idea what may be going on with the other person.......??

Anyhow........I did end up kissing him when we were outside (we were in private)........at one point when we were chatting I think he was trying to write down his number again or something (unsuccessfully).  He did ask me to come over to his place that night and I refused (been there, done that with the one night stands - no more).  He said that he liked my moral stance I guess........I was chatting with some other people later and I noticed he had left.

At one point when we were talking I thought - this is guy is no great shakes - why am I getting all worked up over him? I guess he just seemed nice and down to Earth.....although he does seem to have some hang ups (he was asking me incessantly last night if I had kids, as he did the night I first met him - it kind of sounded like he didn't believe me).

Anyhow, when this happened initially I deleted all of his messages and his number.......unfortunately my phone will pretty much save any number that you've sent a text to......I was tempted to text him yesterday to ask him how he was feeling and maybe get the communication going again but why.......?? Ultimately didn't see the point......I feel like I am always pursuing him, and likely he does like me, but only wants something casual.  He seems pretty into his boozing/casual lifestyle.

Hmm!! Why can't these guys just GO AWAY? lol

Mel :)