A little back story, we started w/ a stray Izzy, she was great, about 9 months later we got Milo, thinking they'd play, and my husband wanted a cat. Now 2 1/2 year later Izzy and Milo have gradually started to tolerate each other, with Milo still being fairly aggressive with her. So we decided to add a 3rd...A playful, cat friendly cat who would take Milo's attention away from Izzy, but be nice enough to Izzy to leave her alone. That was about 3 weeks ago. We have noticed Jetta, the new cat occasionally chasing Izzy, the oldest cat, but there isn't any screaming, and Izzy rebounds fairly quickly. Personally, I don't think Jetta is being mean, she wants to play. The husband has brought up the "R" word...Re-homing for either Izzy, or the other 2 because he doesn't want Izzy to be miserable and fearful her whole life. I don't want that either, but I also am no where near the place of thinking of re-homing a cat or 2. I think we need to give it time, and really don't think it is going badly at all. I just ordered the Feliway diffuser, and have tossed around the idea of that stuff you put in the water for calming cats. Anybody have any other suggestions?