I've been here for a short time. Like many of the other ladies who come here wanting to end things, there is a desire to send a letter to finally end things and wrap it up. Most of you say NO! Can you explain your reasoning so that when people come here in the future, they understand the best way to end the relationsip for good? What about after an initial healing period when you can compose something more rational and well thought out? I think the information might be helpful for a new person needing reference.