I need some outside advice.. To make a long story short, I had started a new position in my company a few months ago as a promotion to management.. I have a small staff now with 2 people above me. I've been under a lot of stress with this job, trying to produce for the business and doing my best to achieve a profit for the company.
The main problem is my coworkers.. Or maybe it's me. I have always thought of myself as a nice person, always willing to do something to make someone happy, no matter how large or small it is. I've always been a quiet type, and maybe a little socially awkward as I find it hard to make friends sometimes. I've had the same friends for years now, and I thank god for them.
I have recently been accused of being selfish by an employee, something I've never in my life been called. I'm not sure where she is getting this from as I do plenty for her, even take her out for drinks, buy them lunch etc. I really take this to heart and now am over analyzing everything I say and do so I don't appear to be so awful.. :(
In my position, I have to represent the business to all new prospective clients and I always take this opportunity, because this is what I'm paid to do.
To make a long story short, her and the other employees make my life so difficult calling me names behind my back because I'm so meticulous about keeping everything the way I like it. Am I a control freak?
Does anyone have advice on how I can keep these girls in line without coming off as mean to them? I now find since I have stopped telling them what to do bc it's met with so much negativity, that nothing gets done...
I give up with them lol.. But I have to take control again and get more structure in the company.
Please help!! Any advice is appreciated!