I posted back in December about the issue with our oldest living with us.
I did get a lot of good advice and finally had a talk with her. We basically told her we knew she had income coming in and that she could not expect us to pay for her dogs, kids, and expenses. During this time she went on a cruise, a trip to New Orleans and has another trip to San Diego and a cruise in March.
So she moved out last Sunday, didn't even say she was moving, just started packing up her car. We asked her where she was going and she said, I willl let you know when I figure it out. We knew where she was going as it was the only friend who had space, and our granddaughter also verified it by telling out 13 yr old.
She then spoke to her sister in law and told her we kicked her out. Now my adorable DIL knew that wasn't fact as we never kick anyone out of our home, but if they have income, or are not disabled, we expect them to help out, buying groceries, or helping with chores. Our oldest did neither. We know her siblings won't believe her if she tells "her version" of what happened, but it still hurts.
My main worry has come to pass, she left, didn't tell us where she was going (though we know) and we will find out Spring break, or Summer break, when we want to spend time with the grandbabies, if we are to be punished for requiring her to act like an adult.
Last time she left we didn't see our oldest grandchild for almost 2 years. Hope she doesn't act this badly this time.