Ok so my story is kind of long. I am going to try to shorten it as much as I can. My ex boyfriend and I dated for 6 months. I am 22 and he is 26. We broke up 3 weeks ago. We had problems throughout our relationship. Our main problem was face book. The same few girls would always comment or like his posts and pictures. When I asked about who they were he would get mad. He also didn’t put in a relationship. One day we were going out to eat and I was going to tag him there and he told me not to because he was suppose to go out with his friends and he ditched them to be with me.
We planned a vacation together in September for January for my birthday. Before we went on vacation he said let’s just both deactivate our face books. I agreed. But then I thought he didn’t want anyone to know he was going on vacation or he didn’t want me putting pictures up or tagging him in posts. I asked him when we got back from vacation if he was going to reactivate his and he said no then asked me if I would and I said I don’t know probably. He asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I told him it didn’t matter, but I liked jewelry. So on Christmas he ended up getting me pots and pans. Then told me he would make it up on my birthday. So when January came we went on our vacation. The day before my birthday we were looking at rings and he asked me what kind of rings I liked so I showed him. Then on my birthday he did do a good job. He got me a purse and room service brought balloons, flower, card, and chocolate covered strawberries. He then pulled a box out of his pocket and handed it to me. When I opened it I was disappointed because the ring was not a ring I had showed him I liked at all. This made me upset because I felt like he wasn’t listening the day before. I know I should have just been happy and I did act like a brat. He told me to take the ring back then and pick out another one and I could tell he was mad. I knew I hurt his feelings and I felt so bad after that. I tried apologizing but the next 2 days of vacation were bad.
Finally on the last night of vacation I thought we made up. I asked him if we were going to break up before we got home and he said no. Then when we got home he went back to his house and texted me the next day saying he needed to think about things. I said ok. He said you know what I am talking about and I said yes I understand I’m sorry and I thought we talked about this before. He told me that I really hurt him because everything came from his heart and I was selfish and that was unacceptable. I really felt so bad and apologized again. Then he texted and said he just couldn’t be with someone like me anymore. He tried and tried. This hurt me so bad because I know it was my fault and I messed up but I didn’t want it to be over. He said we could still be friends. I did reactivate my face book. Then he told me I lied to him and he was pissed because I reactivated my face book. I told him I probably would. Then he said he was about to let everything go but he saw that and that pushed him further away. I was so upset.
The next day I just told him I hate this happened and it has to be this way, but I did had a good vacation with him regardless and appreciated everything he did for me. He told me he just couldn’t do it anymore and he would be my friend but a relationship he wasn’t ready for. I said I understood. Then the next day he just texted me little things about the weather and how he wanted to be back on vacation.
I have to throw this in here so you will understand. 2 months ago a girl at my job sent him a friend request and he told me about it. I wasn’t too fond of this girl because she is just drama. I confronted her about it and she was speechless she then cancelled the request and apologized. End of story right. Well after the breakup and us talking the past few days I go into work the next night and she is working and as soon as I walk in she said why didn’t you tell me you broke up? I was shocked because I wondered how she knew. She then told me he sent her a friend request on face book and a message. She showed me all the messages. He said he was just wondering why she sent him a request when we were together and if she had something to tell him. She said no she just knew I was happy and I deserved to be. Then she said wait you’re not together anymore? And he said unfortunately not. I loved her but we had too many problems and its just not gonna work. She said she understood she had a bad share of men but she was going to delete him as friend because she didn’t want to jeopardize things with me and her. He said ok sorry for bothering you and she said no problem. I was furious after this because he knew how I felt about this girl.
I texted him and said that was low. He said you knew she was going to add me as a friend the first time so whatever. I didn’t tell her anything bad just asking about you and told her I couldn’t deal with your crap. Then I didn’t text back and he sent a little text about the weather getting bad I still didn’t respond. (a part of me thinks they are talking but I don’t know I have no proof she said she would never do that but who knows)
The next day he texted me and told me to be careful driving home and let me know I made it. I didn’t. Then he texted later and said thanks for not letting me know and just ignoring me. I still didn’t respond. 3 days went by and then he called twice but I was asleep. The next day I asked him what he called for and he said nothing sorry I bothered you. Then he said hope you and your daughter are doing ok. I said we were and hope he was too. Then he said he missed us both. I told him we missed him also. I really did and I wanted to work things out.
I asked if we were ever going to make it work and he said he didn’t know time would tell but he wanted to be friends. This really isn’t what I wanted. Before we went on vacation he broke my towel rack and told me he would fix it. He never got it fixed before vacation and neither did I. I had an inspection and got wrote up for it when I told him he was like I thought you would have got it fixed and I told him he was the one that broke it and promised me he would but its ok I would get it fixed. He said he would come fix it that Saturday if I wanted because he did promise so I agreed.
When Saturday came he did come over and fix it. I then basically said to him we are either going to work this out and be together or be nothing because I cant just be friends. He told me wanted to work it out and would come back Monday so I said ok. When Monday came I asked him what time he wanted to hang out. He said he couldn’t today and I cant just be friends and that’s all he can be right now. He said we could hang out and do things but we cant do anything else. I was so hurt. I told him he should have just been honest with me Saturday and he said he was he just had an epiphany. I sent him a long message saying basically I am tired of playing games and being friends is not possible so I just cant do this anymore. He sent a text back saying he did love me and tried to be a friend but I wont accept that so he wishes me the best in the future and he will always be a friend to me whether I accept it or not. I never replied and that is the last I heard from his since Monday (1/28/13)
I am so hurt at this point. I really care and love and have strong feelings for this guy. I just want us to try one more time. I just don’t know what to do. I want this guy back in my life and us happy again. I need some help. Please! Any suggestions or anything??