I struck up a friendship with this woman I had met 4 months ago, we had a lot in common and started hanging out a lot and it was great to know someone else who had retired early and could do things during the day. I told her off a few nights because I felt she insulted me and was being ignorant.
We had gone to the reading of a play and afterwards they were having wine and cheese and a discussion of the play. She wanted to stay and I didn’t because it was 10:00pm on a school night and I had to be up early to make sure my son got up and made his bus. I had suggested she drive her own car and met me there; because she is frequently late and likes to stay places longer than I want to stay but she chose to ride with me.
On the drive home she said how old did you say your son was? And I replied he is 16 and she said shouldn’t he be getting his own self off to school at that age? I told her that my son has ADD and loses track of time. I have to make sure he gets up and gets ready on time so he does not miss his bus because then I would have make a 45 min drive to his school and 45 min back home, 90 min total. I said it has happened more than once and it is easier on me just to get up and get him on his way.
That should have been the end of it. But she went on to say is that ADD something you gave him? I said what do you mean is that something I gave him? Then she went on to say people are always labeling their children and giving them disabilities they don’t have.
This really angered me because the last thing that most parents ever want is for their child to have any kind of disability. It is a very difficult thing to go through, especially trying to get your child properly educated. But what pissed me off even more was when she said she knows of people who label their children to get a SSI check.
That sent me into orbit and I told her if I was going to give my child something it would not be ADD and that was a very ignorant statement and a few other choice words.
This is a very touchy subject for me because I spent 7 years fighting with the public school system to educate him according to his educational plan, I paid thousand of dollars in legal fees, consultant fees, tutoring and for private school; plus he does not receive a SSI check.
I have been ignoring her calls and debating if I want to continue the friendship. My sister thinks that because this is a touchy subject for me I may have over reacted and that I should not be so quick to end a friendship over something like that. Is my sister right, am I making too much of