Hi...I'm kind of new here. Posted over 12 years ago on this site when I first got married...and well....I'm back again. This time I need gentle advice. hew now have 3 children...the oldest is 11 and the youngest is almost 8. I'm in a dead marriage ...I knew this wasn't a good place but I thought that it would get better and we can make a marriage work...but that is not the case. I don't know how to divorce with 3 children.
Im hoping to write more on this board to let you know more about what's going on...but I think that's just going to be a way for me validating that I'm making the right decision....but in reality I know that I am miserable in this marriage and I have turned into someone I can't recognize any more. I'm so sad all the time...the joy has just been sucked out of my soul.
i gave a letter to my husband last week asking for a separation...at first I thought he was blind sided but I think he knows that's how I feel..unfortunately he's not doing much to make me feel like we belong together.
what questions should I be asking myself? How can I support myself with less than $36000 a year?
Especially, what do I do if I want to separate and he doesn't. Please help. Through this board I hope to gather the courage to leave him. I just don't want to destroy my kids in the process.