A little pre info before I ask my question. I have a narcisstic Mother and she nevers asks for help....she says I should anticipate what she needs and act accordingly. Ive told her in the past I'd be happy to help but I have health issues and need to take care of me first. She recently sold her car and she's dropped a few hints that she cant drive. My younger brother spends a lot of time with her and takes her to the store and Dr appointments. With my health issues I'm not physically able to go grocery shopping so I go nonlinear and order my groceries from a store in the next city about 20 minutes away. They bring the groceries to the carand I drive home. I talked to my Mother today as my sister's health continues to fail and she asked if she ordered her groceries the same time can I pick up hers too? She said my brother takes her but either he won't go to the store she wants ir he follows her around impatiently. I told why doesn't she call me when she wants to go to the store and I will drop her off and she can call me when shes ready to be picked up. Same town...store down the street easy right? She said she couldn't do that and I said why? She said because its not in her to ask me to take her to the store....so the easy way is for me to let her know when I'm ordering my groceries. I asked why cant she ask? She said shes too proud and stubborn. I left it as if she wants help with groceries she has to ask me to take her to the store. She then said your brother does it all the time I was just lightening his burden a bit. Awwww.....the sweet sound of guilt! I hinted that I was going to show her if she really needed help that sometimes we have to do what we don't feel comfortable. In my head I'm saying GROW UP! My question is was I wrong? My sister has terminal cancer and I know we're suppose to support each other but good grief I'm not my mother's keeper right? San