I mostly lurk but could really use some advice. A few weeks ago, I noticed my 13 year old son had some of my nail polish, bras, etc in his room. I decided to check the Safari browser history on his iPod to see if I could figure out what was going on. To my surprise, I saw that he had been googling things like "how to know if you're transgender?" and "I'm not gay, I like women but I feel like a girl". This came as quite a shock because he has NEVER mentioned anything like this before- never wanted to wear dresses when he was little or told people he was a girl and not a boy, etc.
So now I'm wondering how on earth do I go about approaching this with him? And how possible is it that this is some sort of confusion brought on my puberty instead of life-long change he is considering making? My husband and I are pretty open-minded people, we'll love him no matter what but it's stressful to think about how much this could complicate life for him.