I appreciate all of the advice you gave me before, I was hoping I could get some on this question. My husband and I have been talking more about using donor sperm, while he's not convinced at least he's willing to discuss it. So that's positive, I think? One sticking point we have is whether to tell other people, and eventually the child. I'm leaning towards keeping it a total secret, but worry because secrets have a way of getting out. My husband is worried about how people will treat him. Is it better to be totally upfront with people, just close relatives or keep it in the family? We are also worried about how are parents will react.