I recently met someone 14yrs my junior and at first he came off as a mature guy. That didn't last for very long, so far he wants to move in with me; lives with a friend; have a part time job; doesn't want to go back to school; 99% of his history doesn't match up; calls his baby mammas bitches, I could go on but I just wanted to give you some real examples. I've decided to stop all communication with him about 3 weeks ago, and at first felt that I was being a snob. However, to give you a brief history about me, those are the guys that I seem to attract, I have a graduate degree; served 21 yrs in the military, supported my two children through college-who are now successful, I haven't been to a night club since 1989 and I met my ex-husband in the service. Instead of cutting myself off completely from dating, I would like some ideas on why I attract thugs and dead beat; why do men my age seem intimidated to approach me; how do I attract the right guy? A little girl/guy talk would be very welcome. Thanks.