So, my husband and I have a fantastic sex life, sex all over the house, toys, in public, I've said no to nothing until now.  I thought things were ok until last summer, he told me it would be a huge turn on to see me with another man??? Then, it went on to group sex, swinging clubs, none of which we have done ...yet. He's very upset sometimes that I am not open to this and jumping in with both feet, which I don't get. I asked him if there's something he's lacking in our sexual relationship , he says no, he's never loved someone enough to want to share this with them. We've been together for 8 yrs. Is this his way of sleeping with other women infront of me? Making it ok because I am with another man?? I'm not like this, I don't sleep with people unless I have feelimgs for them, which he of course says I'm just not open minded. I thought he was up to something last fall, checked his email ye I know it was wrong to do that, but I found correspondence with a couple from Craigs List and he was offering to take care of this mans wife while the husband  watched. He of course said it was a joke and flipped out because I went through his email. I don't really know how to take all of this, a little input would be appreciated.