After 4 months of flirting with the younger man ("MB") from work I've decided to tell him I'm done. I came to this decision after he called me again last night and we had a 2 1/2 hour phone conversation. First I told him how I perceive his actions: that he #1 likes the thrill of sneaking around at work flirting and #2 finds me convenient since he see's me everyday and #3 that he is the male equivalent of a prick tease and he enjoys that power . He denied all of that and reiterated a lot of what he's previously told me: he thinks I'm great, he is totally attracted to me and thinks about me all the time, try's to stay away from me but can't, feels we have a lot in common, would make a great couple, etc. He even told me he could easily find himself falling in love with me if we ever went out. BUT, knowing that he does want to get married and does not want to grow old alone he can't date me because of our 13 yr age difference. LOL, I almost told him that is perfect, just when he would get bored with me I'd die and he'd be free of me. He told me that any time I want "this" to stop he will respect my wishes and leave me alone. After laying awake 1/2 the night I'm damning him and myself. Somewhere along the line I've found myself very attached to him because regardless of all this crap I know he is one of the good guys and that I will miss him, not just the flirting, we can have really deep & meaningful conversations. Unfortunately, right man, wrong age. If he would of just let things alone, let me date the other jerk and not tell me he liked me more then as a friend I would of never known and I wouldn't be in this position. The date with jerk is what started it all - he now admits that even though he really does feel I deserve better then the jerk that he was jealous (speaking of the jerk, good thing I didn't continue with him because he is moving out of state to re-kindle with his ex). Now I have to lose MB as a friend because there is no going back in time and at this point I can't pretend that I don't have true feelings for him. But to continue with the flirting only leaves me wanting more and in the end makes me feel like a used piece of crap. Guess I just wish I could understand why he even ever said all the things he did on New Year's Eve when he must of known then that he would never follow through. Anyway, tomorrow I plan on telling him that he has to leave me alone. By posting this I am reinforcing that fact to myself.