I have been living with my BF for about 2 years now. I make more than him so I pay 75% of the rent. He cannot afford this place without me. So he is cute and charming and a loving father. And he swears his undying love for me. The problem is that he has the heart of a cheater. He touches and flirts inappropriately wherever we go. My friends find it offensive. Non-friends flirt back. And candidly I am balanced between thinking he is being intentional to get approval and thinking he doesn't quite get that his flirting is inappropriate. Anyhow I have had enough. I asked him to move out.
He has refused. In fact, he has decided that he just needs to come on stronger - so he is now always grabbing me for a kiss and saying "I love you!" And so forth.
So I am stuck. A few of my friends think he might be a stalked and the only way I will get rid of him is to show up at the house with a big guy, pack my stuff, and leave. I fear the ensuing scene and the social fallout like the plague. Besides which I do genuinely love him. I just have had enough if the cheating behavior. So I don't want to hurt him. I just want him to leave. But also I figure that white his flirting ways sooner or later he will cross the line with one of these women and then he will want to move out too.
But I wonder if my friends see something I do not. Has anyone out there been in a situation like this? Where the guy just won't leave? Am I being fair to seek a transitional ending? Or am I being stupid?