I haven't posted here in years but I need some advice.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half. We have so much in common and have a great time together always. A couple weeks ago I asked him why he wasn't cuddling or being touchy feely with me and he said he didn't know. He's said he doesn't know how he feels right now. Long story short on Sunday night he tells me he's been speaking to his ex. He said he never stopped loving her but that he does love me and he needs to figure out if he just needs closure with her (they had a pretty strange breakup) or if there is something still there. He always told me that she was a bitch and they always fought. We never fight we have a great mutual respectful adult relationship. I'm 32 and he's 35.
I've told him why we are great and why I am this for the long haul and i'm not giving up to some wanna be ex-homewrecker (I didn't say the homewrecker part but wanted to)
He's going through some other issues in life with his 12 year old son and also his job right now so I know there is a lot of stress on him but I don't want to make excuses becuase I love him and know that I am the right one for him. Now and always.
I told him that the past isn't always as good as you remember that you can't go back and have that same type of love (believe me I've tried and it's never the same) He said this morning that he knows I'm right. I just need to breathe and give him time (but we live together) so any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I'm sure some of you are thinking RUN RUN fast but I don't know if I'm ready to give up without a fight!