I finally decided this was the place to go about this. You guys can give this Catholic non-parent a view of parenting from a Catholic perspective
When my husband and I first married, my husband kept avoiding any discussion of parenting (didn't really come up in pre-cana, which I blame on the people writing the program in our parish.) I knew my husband was scared of parenting. Quite frankly, so was I, though I at least at some point wanted to talk about being foster parents. I took the Pill for years; never got pregnant.
Time went on. I guess I watched too much EWTN, and came to the conclusion that taking the Pill was wrong. I stopped a year and a half ago, and DH went along. Since then, we've not had much action in the bedroom, so think that pregnancy is unlikely. Besides, a celibate marriage ain't so bad really. I digress.
Tonight, I was watching an inspiring program on EWTN where they interviewed mothers of Down's Syndrome children. I think they were realistic about both the challenges and rewards. It seemed like the rewards outweighed the challenges. I knew that there were many Down's children waiting to be adopted. I broached the subject with DH. He only emphasized that he never wants to be a parent...in any capacity.
This makes me sad. I am warming to the idea of parenthood, while my husband remains cold. Society keeps saying how great parents are. Not that I want to be admired, but sometimes I wonder what I am missing out on. I am a teacher. I am around children frequently. I don't like them any more or less than I do adults- they are just small people. Wouldn't more people in your life be a blessing? As a teacher, I also see the dark side of parenting. It is to the point that I have trouble trusting the parents i do business with in my music teaching business. I digress again.
I am rambling a lot, just throwing random thoughts out there. But in short, what is the Catholic way of handling it when one of you is open to kids or adoption and the other is not?