I found ivillage (parentsoup) 15 years ago when my kids were 4 and 1. I was working FT then, and the particular Board had just started. It was a vicious place, with SAHM's and WOHM's defending their lifestyles and attacking each other. I just quit participating after awhile, although I did "meet" some nice folk. I just happened to be playing around and thought I'd see how this board has progressed. I'm pleasantly surprised at the majority of topics and tones I see here now. I'm glad things seem to be coming around more and more that there is just not one "right" way.
When my oldest started first grade, I began working PT..just during school hours. My own personal thoughts? I loved being able to get my kids and take them home from school. After years of daycare, it was a treat for me. But you know what? I really don't think it matters in regards to their future happiness and success. I live in a neighborhood of 400 families, our moms groups has as many SAHM's, WOHM's, PT WOHM's, work at home moms. Some of the brightest and most well adjusted teens turned out to be children of WOHM's...going to Ivy League schools!! One of my good friends is a SAHM and her kids are ultra-bright...all 3 successful. I told you my situation, well my oldest suffers from depression and executive dysfunction. My youngest is cheerful and bright and motivated to do well. IT_JUST_DOESN'T_MATTER what you choose to do.
As long as the child is loved, cherished and not abused, their own souls will dictate what they do, who they will become and what they will be. Genetics play a BIG factor. So, everyone do what they need to do as a mom to keep themselves happy and sane. If we are all happy and sane, that is the what they need the most...above everything else. I agree there are extremes of every type, but I'm talking about most of us.
So...here's to you all. Happy mothering....and as the movie says, "The kids are alright".