My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, but we seem to be arguing a lot lately. He gets mad about little things and what makes me feel worse is that it's when I try to do nice things. He recently joined the army and I want to be supportive by asking him about it and trying to get involved. That actually seems to make things worse. He has had important events that I didn't know about until later. He didn't tell me when he is going to be sent for training until I heard him say it to someone else that asked him about it. So when I asked why he doesn't tell me these things all he said was that he doesn't have to tell me everything he does, but yet he tells eveyone else about it. I decided not to ask any questions about his army things anymore.
Also, about a week ago we had another argument. He says that all I want to do is hold hands, but the only time we do is when we are out walking. Before he told me that I started to notice that he would hold my hand loose and barely holding it. So now we don't really hold hands. He doesn't show much affection, I guess you could say he is a cold person. I try to be nice and caring, but seems to makes matters worse and makes me feel unwanted. He has never said anything about hand holding before.
I sometimes hope that once he is doing his training he will miss me and show some affection. Since he also has told me that he wants space. Am I hoping for too much? What do you guys think? I have asked him if he seriously does love me and he said yes, but it's hard to believe him when he acts like this.