I'm new to the community and wanted to bring up a topic that I hope can help even just one person... Childhood Sexual Abuse of Men/Boys.
We have probably all read or heard about cases of childhood sexual abuse and believe them to be such rare cases; however, estimates indicate that one in six boys are sexually abused by age 18. That means that perhaps one of six males that you know are or have been somehow sexually abused... yourself, spouse, child, neighbor, friend, co-worker... someone! Because of the stigma attached to abuse few men report the incidents which can range in severity from inappropriate touching to bullying, rape, explotation or a combination.
As a former victim / survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I have recently come to terms with my past and the effects that the abuse / incest / rape has had on me personally and in my platonic and sexual relationships. Recently a trigger has induced an awareness to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), depression, a panic and anxiety disorder, and other emotional issues that I currently in therapy for. CSA issues are not limited to the news stories you hear of pedophile football coaches, clergy, scout leaders, teachers or that creepy old man near the schoolyard. In my case, the sexual abuse was done by my older brother from when I was ten until about fifteen. Perhaps the worst part of my story is that it is not and never was discussed and I was pretty much told that it was some kind of crazy dream or fantasy that never took place. It is no wonder that it's never spoken about for the emotional realities of shame, blame, guilt, depression, trauma and so much more.
CSA and molestation *DOES* occur in families and I am one of those victims / survivors looking to gain and share support services to other men and boys whose lives are, were or will be affected. I am opening up this discussion here because there is little information or FAQs about the issues that relate to men whose lives and loves are, were or will never be the same.
Any serious input would be greatly appreciated ... questions, comments, resources?
- Jeff (aka CSAJourney)