Hi everyone. I am afraid my husband might be cheating or thinking about it. The last five years of our marriage have been a challenge. We have had some career changes, financial issues, and general annouance with each other. We seemed to be growing apart but we both have made efforts to work through it and find our happiness. Last night, I got home late and my DH was asleep in the family room. He often does that. I went in the bedroom to get ready for bed and his cell phone was sitting on the nightstand charging. I picked it up and looked through his text messages. I have never snooped before, nor felt the need, and I can't define why I did last night. He had several messages from a woman he originally new professionally. He has her number in his contact list under just her initials. She had sent him a several pictures of a huge back tatoo just had just gotten. The pic showed a little side boob and stopped at the top of her behind. His reply was, "that looks awesome but I can't 'see everything." By everything, I assume he was refering to her boobs and butt because you can see the entire tatoo in the pic. She replied, "LOL, I'll have to show you when I get back."
After that, I checked the details our cell phone bill and found that she has texted him quite a bit and he has responded some of the time. Often her texts are late at night or in the morning when he is at work. This woman is someone he has talked about but he also told me she was dating someone he knew. My sister worked with this woman many years ago and said she always causes trouble. I do know she has been married and divorced three times.
I am uncomfortable addressing this with my DH simply because I was snooping, but I was sick to my stomach last night thinking about it all night. I often feel that we are just too different from each other. At first that worked for us, but now I wonder if it is just too much. Or if I am just projecting and finding problems because we have had some difficult years. The problem is, is that I don't think this is the first time. Many years ago, there was a girl he talked about all the time and I always thought there was something going on but I didn't have any proof, just a feeling. Some days I just want to pack my stuff and move out. This is one of those days . . .