I hope you are keeping well and that the weather is treating you better than here. :) Brrrr.......it's cold!!!
I know my posts tend to be quite long, so I'll try to make this one partly in bullet points. I coaxed myself out to go to a singles dance on Saturday night. Although it hasn't been very much of a success in meeting people, I try to go every now and then to get out, dance and chat with some new people. When I walked in on Saturday night, I was standing by the bar and immediately a guy approached me. My initial impression of him was not good - based on the following:
1) He started the conversation by saying how expensive the booze was and how he could get a case of beer for the price of just a couple (the drinks are expensive......but that's part of the whole gig......it's a nice venue and they don't want "drunk" people). He also said he wished he was just home watching the hockey game.
2) After I scouted the room we began chatting more and he mentioned his ex gf many times - that she was a slob, etc. and that he'd loaned her $15k. He said that now she was engaged to someone else and he did keep in touch with her, just because she owes him this money. He mentioned that she'd also declared bankruptcy.
3) He lives in a condo (I am in an apartment building) and I was saying that I would *love* a condo, not just because of the home ownership aspect, but because you have laundry in your suite (often times I am waiting for other people's laundry to be done and can't wash everything I need, and you have to put coins into the machine, etc.). He mentioned that he bought a washing machine but it left rust stains on his clothes (obviously didn't buy it new)......now he does laundry in his basement........just rings of really really cheap.......you can easily buy a stackable machine for a condo unit.
4) He asked me why I was alone and I told him that all my friends were married. He replied with "me too" but he was there with two other guys who were trolling. I asked about that and he said "Yeah - these are just dirtbags that I know......".
Anyhow.......we talked for an hour or so - basically about our relative situations. He also lives alone with a dog..........at one point my drink was finished so I asked him if he would like one (I thought it was the only polite thing to do). Once I bought him a drink he was so ecstatic, saying that a girl had never bought him a drink before. After that he seemed quite interested.......he did mention that he doesn't mind paying on dates "sometimes" but doesn't feel he should be fitted with the bill all the time (he also mentioned several times that his condo is paid off, he has money in the bank and is one year away from retirement - he has a government job and doesn't look that old).
I could have made the decision right away (no) but when I went to leave he walked me out, kissed me on the cheek and said he would give me his number and I could call only if I really wanted to. The way it worked out I ended up texting him so he had my number and then when I arrived home he texted me to ask if I got home okay, which I thought was sweet.
Anyhow.......I know this is a decision I have to make for myself and perhaps one date will reveal more but I have been pretty guarded and I don't want to start the "emtional roller coaster" if I'm just not sure about the person.
Thoughts either way? Just wondering another singles' opinion.