Thank goodness I found a place to vent.
Just got dumped by MM on Saturday without warning. Been best friends for eight years, got into PA in December. Incredible connection and incredible sex, even as recently as last Thursday. Did not hear from MM until midday Saturday with a text that essentially said "told wife of affair, she sets conditions of no contact, we're done." WTF? No mention of what occurred, etc. Text/email/call to no avail. They have blocked all regular forms of communication. Got a brief email from the wife saying she will bring by my things that they have borrowed, but other than that she expects my full compliance with no contact.
Wanting to see MM and get some explanation, I show up unannounced at his place of business. He is obviously nervous and concerned. Calls wife who freaks out. He is cold as steel to me. No indication of love and affection that he has ALWAYS had even before the affair. Tells me in no uncertain terms that it is over and there will be no opportunities to contact him further. I am devastated to say the least. I expected a caring and tearful goodbye. A hug. An offer to go back to friendship status. Nope. Cold. Harsh. Unfeeling it seems. Is he even bothered that he may never see me again in any form? His wife was calling every 3 minutes to make sure he was accomplishing the task of getting rid of me. At one point, she told him to tell me it was time to leave. I told him it was a public place and I was under no obligation to do so.
I got mad and called him a few choice expletives before I left. He said he felt better when he knew I was angry with him and not sad. So what does anyone make of all this? Until today I considered him my best friend and one of the most kindest, gentlest souls I know. Why would he treat me so badly? Easier to say goodbye when you are emotionally detached?
No idea but I am more hurt than words could ever express.