I am 41 years old and have a 14 year old, 9 year old, 2 year old and 8 month old. We only planned to have two kids. The last two were unexpected gifts. However, our lives have changed in many ways with their arrival. I am very limited in what I can provide in terms of time to my two older kids, so they feel abandoned a lot. I had to quit work because of the extra kids and not many affordable and reliable options for childcare. My husband works like crazy to try and make ends meet and is studying full time to try and improve his income so he can be home more. Because he is largely unavailable due to working and studying, I'm alone with the kids a lot. I feel stuck because I have very little adult contact any more and I no longer feel like I know how to seek out new friends. The people who have been our friends have just the older kids now and aren't limited in their social activities by babies, so we don't get to do things with them much any more. When I look around at people who have babies, I start feeling pretty sure I'm old enough to be their parents (or at the very least a much older sibling).
I would love to find people who have this similar situation of having had kids that are now junior high/high school age, but also had at least one late-in-life "oopsie". I don't seem to know how to look for that. When I type things in to the web browser about playgroups for moms over 40 with babies, I just get a bunch of news articles about crimes parents over 40 have committted against their children (?@#&?).
Anybody have any suggestions for how I can locate anybody that had a big life turn like we did that we could relate to?? Thanks!