Hi everyone. It's been ages since I've been here. I ended my affair in '07. AP and I are/were both married. We went cold turkey. No contact. He just recently contacted me again. Truthfully, I've thought about him here and there, little things that remind me of him in general (not necessarily US together). But to be contacted... ugh. And I found out that he's since been divorced and remarried. So now I feel used and dumb.
Anywho... hoping to get some input. I've worked through my marriage and am happy now, but I'm still so hurt by this. Do you think it's normal? Do you think I'll always feel something for him, even though obviously I was a notch on the belt (that he keeps coming back to)? Just so torn.
I'm on the fence about contacting him. Not to get together again (he's in a different country anyway, but our A started as an emotional one and was 99% emotional as we lived in different states and only saw each other a handful of times, but I was extremely emotionally involved) but to say how disgusted I am. But then I think no reply would be an even bigger slap to him. Thoughts?