Hi All -
I have been exclusively dating a man for over a year now. We met at work and developed a friendship. We have a fun, loving, warm relationship and we do love each other. I definitely see a marriage down the road. Following is my issue that I need advice on:
He broke up with his (ex) fiance 2-1/2 years ago. They did love each other, but she had psychological and alcohol issues that led to physically violent episodes. He realized he didn't want to spend eternity like that and called off the wedding and the relationship. She has, since the breakup, continued to sporadically email, text and call him. He has not responded to her messages, other than before I was around, to tell her that the relationship is over. However, I only know this information from snooping. Part of me thinks I should feel guilty for snooping, but the other half of me doesn't. I am divorced: older and wiser and want to look out for myself to be sure that I am not made a fool of. I know from snooping, also, that he has told people he is a one-woman man. I have no reason not to trust him, other than being hurt that he hasn't erased her messages or blocked her number and email.
Part of me wants to discuss this with him because it bothers me. Another part of me just says to trust him and enjoy our relationship.
Any advice is appreciated!