A male friend of mine has been seperated for over 1 year from his wife. He and his wife are both my friends. I havent talked to her in 3 years. He began contacting me 4 months ago. In the past I had to cut my friendship with him, because his wife felt me and him were too close (just friends).
Our conversations were pretty basic catching up (work, single life, and family). He would rant about his wife leaving him. He never asked me to contact her, but I did. She wont return my emails, PM's or calls. We are friends on Facebook, I see when shes on, so shes ignoring me.
He lives in Chicago and decided to visit me in Ohio, a couple of times. We went out for dinner and shopping. He began frequently asking about my relationships and type of guys Im attracted to. He talked less about his ex wife.
He asked if I would visit in Chicago, which I said I dont know. One stressful day after work I texted him I was packing to stay the weekend with him. The first day he showed me parts of the city, the second day we kissed and the third day we had sex (all day).
He asked me if I regret everything from the weekend. I told him I was happy, but have this feeling its wrong. He said this weekend was amazing not just the sex. He said hes going to file the divorce papers, this month. He asked if we could see where this goes and is paying for me to come back to chicago this weekend. So far its been numerous 5 hour conversations about how we both miss each other and need to find a way to see each other again, (due to work). We skyped and he asked me to promise to always be honest with him no matter what and he promised the same. My worry is that the ex wife will find out and think this all happen while they were together. Do I have to explain to her?