A girl was worried about having a relationship with the stepmom because she didn't want her mom to be upset by it. This was the advice given to her by two sisters:
"Be honest with your mom about how you feel about your stepmom. It’s up to your mom to handle that well -- she’s the grown-up," Emily said. Meanwhile, older sister Natalie had this to say: “The best thing is for you to have the relationships you want to have with the people in your life -- your dad, mom, and stepmom -- and let the adults worry about how they feel about it.”
Read more at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/30/stepmom-issue_n_3187261.html 
Do you think the advice they gave is reasonable? It can be hard for some parents be adult where their own feelings are concerned, and you don't want guilt piled on the shoulders of the child. How would you feel if you were the BM in this situation?