Hi, all. I have been lurking on this board for a while. I need a reality check and I hope you ladies can help me out. Today is my DD's Junior prom. It is not the first prom she attended--she went to her BF's Junior prom last year. Unfortunately, I was at a weekend-long church meeting last year in a town 1.5 hours from here. I drove back to attend grand march and get a couple of pictures, but I felt awful that I was not there to help her get ready. I was really looking forward to being here this year and told DD that I wanted to help her get ready. Unfortunately, we have had several differences of opinion. She has spent all of her money on a dress, jewelry, alterations (where they quoted her one price and charged her another, which I could have done for free), flowers, garter, a salon hair coloring job, tanning sessions (which I disapproved of but she did anyway), and then a horrible, blotchy orange "professional" spray tan, when the tanning bed didn't take (she and I are very fair skinned and do not tan, no matter what). The only thing I actively disapproved of was the tanning bed. For the rest, since she works and she spent her money, I kept my mouth shut. Even when she'd overextended herself to the point that she couldn't afford gas to get to work. Then, yesterday morning she informed me that not only would she not be getting ready here at the house, but she'd made plans for a co-ed sleepover with a bunch of other kids at a male friend's house. I posted about this on another board, and as I said in that post, I know the boy, I know his parents. I like them very much. But the whole co-ed sleepover thing was just too much for me to handle and I put my foot down. A shouting match ensued. We got it worked out, but now I am sitting here all by myself and my kids are getting ready for this big event elsewhere (DS is going also) and I am so hurt and wondering what I did wrong. Yes, I know it is healthy for my kids to want to be independent, and I am proud of them for being able to handle things. But I checked my FB and all these other moms that I know are with their daughters as they are getting their hair done, getting dressed, etc., and I am really sad that I'm not the one taking DD for her hair appointment and I won't be the one lacing her into her dress. So anyway, I guess I am wondering, am I being ridiculous for being hurt and feeling cheated out of sharing this day with DD?