We are having an issue with my husbands brother and SIL. The recent was them leaving our daughters birthday party this past weekend before we even sung to her.We kind of thought they would going into it and said were going to try to not be upset but of course did. They are very strict with their daughters nap schedule and leave if nap is approaching. They didn't even say goodbye just left (thier daughter was playing and happy as can be so it wasn't like she was starting to melt so they rushed out) Didn't even ask hey we need to head out do you think you guys could sing to her soon. Our children along with other's at the party still nap and we would never expect anyone to make their child miss a nap but my husbands point to his brother was they could have asked if we would be singing or better yet have taken 2 cars so SIL could go home with their daughter or BIL could have gotten a ride home with MIL & FIL who live close by and wouldn't have mind. Daughter even asked at one point where they were.This isn't the 1st time they have done this they left son's 1st birthday early along with his baptism (and BIL was his godfather) We go to their daughter's parties stay for it and help them clean up (not that I would ever expect them to clean up just be there to celebrate with child and the family) I could never imajine acting this way with our neice nor would I want to.
We had a mutual family members 1st communion the next day and a relative offered our kids a juice box. Now we don't have juice in the house, they don't have juice boxes often our pediatrician doesn't reccomend juice exc but at a party they have one once and a while and the kids think its a big deal! When this relative then offetred one to neice our SIL and BIL comment how "oh no way we wouldn't give her one she only drinks water and milk she doesnt drink juice we asked our pediatrician and she said its bad for them exc" right in front of us where our children are drinking one! I just think its insulting! They are constantly making simular remarks about different thinks when we are at family get togethers.They also were bragging about how much their daughter talks when they know our youngest who is a few months older than their daughter isn't really talking alot yet and is having a speech eval done. I know we should just try to brush it off but it because frustrating when all these things happen time and time again. We want the kids to be close and grow up in a close family relationship but its getting hard when it makes family events not something we look forward to or get upset during. Do we try to seriously talk to them one last time, do we call them out, grin and bear it?!