There are a lot of new people here, but the old timers will remember me (those who are still here!). I'm calmama, living in the SF Bay Area with my dh and 2 middle-aged dogs. It's been a long time since my last update, but Pam just inspired me to chime in after all these months (maybe longer!). My girls are 26 & 31, both graduates from 4-yr. universities, so clearly I'm not a POCS anymore.. My younger dd has been married for over a year and a half, and they are very happy although not without their struggles. Dd has been employed for the same small company in Portland, OR now for almost 2 years. Has been promoted 3 times and now is managing their web site and in charge of marketing. Her husband, OTH, has been struggling between going to school and finding work. He's 27 and still kind of floundering. He has decided to put school on hold for the rest of the year (the JC up there is on the quarter system) and is trying really hard to find work. It hasn't been easy. My dd makes decent money so they get by but it's not enough for them to feel comfortable. We have always been a little concerned about s.i.l.'s potential to earn a living, but honestly, he is a really good person and adores my dd, and that is the most important thing to me. I just hope he finds work soon!
Older dd, divorced in Sept. 2011, has been with her current bf for about a year and a half. They have known each other since 2nd grade and reconnected on facebook so once they became a couple it got serious very fast. For awhile they were talking about getting married, a little too quickly I thought, but I haven't heard the word marriage in awhile so I guess they decided to take their time. They are very compatible and she is happier than I have seen her in a long time; he is everything her ex was not, which is a good thing! Dd still works as a mental health counselor at the local psychiatric hospital and now lives about 1/2 hour from us with her bf. She was going to pursue nursing but seems to have lost her initiative since she and bf started living together; she's enjoying life too much right now to go back to school. After 7.5 years working the swing shift, she was just approved to transfer to day shift, which much better matches her bf's schedule, so she is a happy camper!
I'm still working 3 days/week at the hospital I've been working at for 26 years. I switched my unit assignment a little over a year ago and it is less stressful than what I was doing before so I'm pretty lucky. I still am keeping up with my cycling and started running more seriously earlier this year. I just - at the ripe "old" age of 59 - completed my first half-marathon! I'm proud of myself but I don't know if I have it in me to do it again - we'll see! Dh had to give up running because of knee problems but he remains an avid cyclist so we enjoy doing that together. We also took up kayaking last year and have a small vacation home near Lake Tahoe, so that keeps us busy in the summer. We definitely learned how to adapt to the empty nest! :)
Sorry about the dumb signature - with the changes they made, they removed my photo and half a phrase - I tried to get rid of the whole thing but couldn't, so now it just looks dumb! I don't know what iVillage did to change things up, or why, but I agree that it is kind of frustrating!