My best friend recently got engaged. She has been planning like crazy in the last month she has been engaged and has found her venue: Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. It will be in January. At first it was just going to be family, but now she is inviting friends (only a few) so my husband and I are obviously invited. Currently my husband is in school (graduates in Dec) and I am providing for us. As of right now we do not have a plan for where we will be in January 2014 and we definitely to not have the money to go to Mexico. Not to mention, hopefully he will have a job after graduation and asking for time off right off the bat is not something he really wants to do. With moving, all his loans, and my low income; it's just not feasible. However, I really want to go to be there for her and I really don't want to travel to Mexico alone and so I asked her if I could bring my mom with me and just a travel companion. My mom would not go to the wedding or any festivities bc I know she wants it small and intimate. Me bringing my mom would allow me to go and most likely my parents would pay. My mom would get to be on vacay, read on the beach, enjoy Mexico and I would get to be at my best friend's wedidng. She said, No.
I was shocked. Should I be that shocked? I have been a bride before and I feel I would have said yes in a heartbeat if things were reversed because the end result would have been her being able to be there. What should I do? Should I bring it back up? Explain myself more? Relate it to her being at mine? Any advice would be great!