This sounds like an easy thing to remedy, but my fiance lives in a small, sort of hunting shack in the woods. When we started seeing each other, he kept saying it wasn't suitable for even 1 person to live there let alone 2, but he was able to make due. He makes about $150K a year, but he loves having several acres of property. Still, it sometimes gets partly flooded, and the home is hardly a home --- he cannot entertain there and although he has lived their for 15 years, he has never had his parents step foot inside --- even while they live fairly close. Now that he knows I want to marry him, he doesn't want to move, but has other plans that are more important to him. He says we would build a house on that property, but that is IF he gets some other loan paid off in a few months, then takes out another loan, and THEN for some reason, he wouldn't be able to start building a new home until AFTER we are married for a little over a year and a half, and then it would take 5 months to build.
I'm not sure what to say, think or do about this situation. The place has termites and an old carpet (I've never seen the inside of the place but he doesn't wish for me to see it yet) and underneath is concrete* (*this is in a place where well beneath the soil it is practically all water, so no basements).
I am willing to compromise: I said we don't have to go on a honeymoon. Let's put the money, instead, towards fixing up the place. He said it isn't a permanent solution to live in this place so he doesn't want to put any money in it, besides, his youngeer brother took hhis wife on a vacations. It is starting to make me feel like as long as he has me, my feelings don't matter. What should I do or say?