okay so i really like this guy but he seems like kind of a player. he is a dj, so he meets and hooks up with a lot of girls. he has tried to hook up with me in the past, but we have only made out. he talks to me a lot, but it seems like he kind of plays games. one day he'll talk to me, the next day he'll act like i don't even exist. he is 24, but hasn't had a girlfriend since high school.. i don't know if he's into me. his room mate told me drunk that he talks about me a lot. he tried to get me to come over the other night, and i said that i would but not in the way he'd think. he was like "sorry to be pushy, i just had 4 glasses of wine. why don't we have a movie night sometime next week when im just chillin and not drinking?" i do want to hook up with him, but i'm afraid that would ruin any chance at a relationship. i just don't know how to get through to him without NOT hooking up. he doesn't seem like the type to try to hang out with a girl just to get to know them. he has a lot of groupies, and a whole list of girls im sure he can invite over so he's not lonely. but i don't want to be a groupie to him. so how do i go about this??? please any advice would be great?? :) i know he doesn't seem like the best guy to try to be in a relationship with, but for some reason i just don't want to give up on him. he seems to be emotional deep down, i just don't know how to get to him. he says he's done with sorority girls with no substance, and i feel that we connect on a lot deeper of a level than that. I too am done dating men with no substance. however, he is extremely good looking and i know that he's used to getting what he wants. people say that i am just as attractive, but for some reason i'm not confident when it comes to him. i don't think i've ever delt with a guy like this before. and to top it all off, i can't seem to find any other guys that i like half as much. i'm just frustrated... thanks to anyone who can give me some advice.