So things were going well with this guy for a while. Now I haven't seen him in a two weeks but I do get texts, casual texts, frequently. When I ask him about this behavior (this has happened several times) I am told that he is "going through something" and that he doesn't want to discuss it "until he's sure" and that he'll "need help with it". Now, I have helped him with many issues, of ALL types, completely unrelated to our relationship, in the past. I'm the kind of person who is always there for everyone. When I ask if the "something" he's going through has ANYTHING at all to do with me, he assures me it does not.
He keeps in touch but has not made plans with me lately and frankly, I miss him and have told him this. He keeps telling me not to worry and we will see each other. I absolutely HATE MYSELF for caring. I desperately wish I could hate him instead and tell him to disappear, but we've know each other (acquaintances only) for years and can't stand to cut him out of my life completely. I am smart. I am aware. I am reality based. But I really want to see him! I don't know what to do or how to handle this. On the one hand he MAY be going through things because his life is rather complicated...on the other hand I ALWAYS feel like I'm being put on the back burner...I am so saddened by this. I just want to put EVERYTHING I think and all my anger into an email and send it to him once and for all...but I know that would result in a permanent change of status...I am SO UPSET and conflicted ! Help!