(I might not be on the right board, so I apologize in advance!)
My fiance and I have been wondering about something, rather, someone. We've been discussing about my XH (not something you hear everyday LOL!)
I have two children by my XH, and my kids have told me numerous times that their dad and wife fight CONSTANTLY to the point where SHE, not HE, ends up leaving the house for a few hours. (The kids visit their dad from time to time.) They're also older children, so they know what they're saying.
I met my fiance in 2010 and coincidentally my XH met his partner (now wife) the same year. They got married a short few months after meeting each other while I just recently got engaged at the beginning of this year. I don't even know my own wedding date yet, but that's okay with me, since I had an incredibly horrible experience with my XH and still dealing with my own issues even now. I am in no hurry to get married. XH has also adopted his wife's kids, only a few months ago.
As of late, my fiance and I are hearing that XH and his wife are having marital issues. However, things always seem to stay together, but it is very unstable, obviously. My kids say that they're still fighting, as always, and wish their dad wasn't married to her because he was "better" before he met her. They say that she is "the boss of everything," when he used to be and they've said that he smokes and drinks now, something he's never done before meeting her. For the most part, everything is completely opposite since meeting his wife. They also live out of state, and he's only come to visit the kids while his wife was present, but this year XH has said that he will be visiting alone.
So, given all of this information, my fiance and I must assume XH and his wife are miserable together, but for reasons unknown they still stay together. We are confused as heck and my kids are hoping this doesn't work out. (That's bad when your kids don't want your marriage to work.)
I guess my question here would be, how much longer will their relationship last? I mean, can this kind of relationship end up working out? My fiance and I don't understand how XH can go through all of this, and in the meantime putting his biological kids through this as well. IMO, they got married too quickly and he adopted her kids way too quickly, but I suppose if they love each other enough they will make it work, but according to the kids they fight "all the time" and hardly ever see them happy.
EDIT: I forgot something earlier. XH and wife have fought especially after marriage, and a bit before marriage. So, if they've been having all of these fights throughout the marriage then why the heck would a guy then go and adopt the wife's kids? That's what plagues my fiance and I the most.