I am new to the board and I am sooooo happy I found you!
My sister is getting married and I am MOH or one of...she needs two. We are not close in age or in life. I am six years older, though I feel with life experience I am 900 years older, or maybe just 20 or 30 years. Anyway, I am a single mom of three kids, three almost teenagers. She lives 20 miles away and only sees them on Christmas and birthdays (maybe), she wants them in her wedding but insists on talking to them like toddlers and dressing them the same. My issue is she keeps saying she doesnt want a big expensive wedding she never wants to be someone who spends 30k on a wedding. She is currently at 25k and doesnt realize it. She is spending everyone else's money and has no concept. She has only lived on her own for the last year though she is in her late 20s, and my parents still help her pay bills. I finally had to explain to her I cant buy all the wedding attire in one week because I didnt have the money at the ready. She went to freeze and wanted to know when and if I could please not stress her out. I finally lost it, told her I am raising three kids and living life not providing her with one day like its her whole happiness, just one day. She is so focused on the wedding she has zero idea there is a whole marriage after that.
We have the Grand Canyon of space between us to begin with, my BF cant understand why I am even bothering. My answer, if by some small miracle she finishes growing up before she is 50 and we get to have some kind of decent relationship I dont want the fact that I skipped her wedding be the thing that breaks that. Though now I am not sure I will make it...I found from the other bridesmaids she paints me the old spinster who is so nasty I will die miserable and alone. Nice huh?
Thanks for letting me vent.