When you don't earn a paycheck or receive a review from your employer, it's hard to measure if you are being successful as a SAH parent. A Huffington Post blogger talked about this issue:
When you are a stay-at-home parent, how do you define success? Is a successful SAHP one whose house is pristine, clean and organized? Is he or she dressed in real clothes every day, reserving yoga pants for actual yoga and flip-flops for the pool deck? Are the children clean but still having fun, well-dressed but not too pretentiously, and fed organic, non-GMO, non-HFCS, homemade meals that they still enjoy and won't lead them to eating disorders? Do their children come home with straight A's on their report cards and sparkle with social prowess? Because if so, that's a pretty tall order for "success," and it is one that very few people can achieve. It excludes anyone with children who fit outside the mold of absolute average for whatever reason, and it assumes that just because a parent stays at home, he or she is solely responsible for the well-being of both the house and the children.
How do you think success should be defined for any parent?