Hello, I am a guy and dared to log into this forum. I hope you can help me with my advise. I am dating an old colleague from work and we have found that he have an extremely good chemistry, in all ways, as friends and lovers. We love each other and would like to take our relationship to the next step. We both are divorced (second time both) and we understand the consequences of our decision. We are on our early 50's but feeling like 30's. We had been very open in our communication (at least I thought so) when I just discovered a couple of days ago that she hided from me that she had an affair and became a mistress of a work colleague some 25 years ago for a few years. She told me this after I started to ask her about this. I felt very bad that she hided this from me as I would find out anyway, but most importantly, I felt it like a betrayal since she was not being transparent with me when we promised to trust each other 100%. Also, to be honest by learning what she did, I lost some of the ilusion and freshness that I originally had when I found her. I don't want to judge her, especially if it was 25 years ago, but knowing that she admittedly was a mistress of one of my coworker (of course he was married), makes me feel that I am not that special, as she makes me believe I am. I am dejected and disappointed and don't know what to do. It is like of the magic is gone. Am I overreacting? I would really appreciate your thoughts. Thank you.