Because I have a hard time deciphering between the two. Usually, and I'm not proud to admit this, but my first reaction is to say no because I don't want to be put out or be taken advantage of . . . Sometimes after I've thought it through, I feel guilty. I swear I need a reference book on ettiquette. I also need to train myself to say: "Let me get back to you." instead of trying to give an answer on the spot.
What's your first reaction when someone asks for a favor? Not so much monetarily but something you just don't want to do? I think maybe I've gotten a little selfish in my old age. If my family needs me, it's different but otherwise I just don't seem as compliant as in the past. Anyone else see changes in your personality as you have aged (and not always for the better) ? Could this be a casualty of being single for so long (forgetting about compromise) ?