I have been spending time with a guy for approx. 4 months. He has just got out of a 7-9 year (not sure) marriage. We agreed we would take one day at a time and we have been seeing each other and staying with each other for approx. 50-70% of the 4 months. He came across a letter his ex wrote him that discribed everything she did not like about him. We were discussing things and he said he would like to see what it is like to be free and not have to answer to anyone. I asked him why he feels the need he needs to answer to me. I do not tell him every thing I do through out the day. He said that is just how he is wired. He said he always goes full force in relationships and feels like he needs to call if he is stopping by the store or having a beer etc. I said that is not necessary. Like just now he text me he was going to the pool. I am not used to having to give min by min plays but that is fine. I do not ask for him to do that. He says he wants to change that and has told me he likes me more than ever now. This is where the confusion is.... his exact works are "I don't want to date, but I want to be free to date. He said he does not want to date anyone and continue seeing me but wants to be free to date?? What the?? I replyed "why dont' you just say lets date other people"? His response was I don't want to stop spending time with you. I just want to be free to date. Mind you, we were friend from long ago and just touch each others lives again thru match.com...he just renewed his subscription again. I said we should date other people and if we want to see each other we can call or text and see if we are available. He responds I want to see you tonight!! I am not available tonight so we are dancing tomorrow night. what would you do?