Hi everyone, thank you in advance for your thoughts & advice.
My BF (40) & I (35) have been living together for almost 4 years. He has no kids & I have two boys, ages 12 & 8, from a previous marriage. To give some background info on that, I left my ex due to ongoing issues that he never attempted to change, my parents didn't support me 'leaving the family' therefore my parents I don't have a relationship with them, however they talk to my ex (eventhough they didn't like him when we were together). My ex & I aren't on good terms & needless to say my BF & ex do NOT get along.
My BF has told me conflicting ideas on if he wants kids of his own. First it was he didn't want kids then recently he told me that since his 20s he's wanted to have kids. I'm ok if I do or don't have another. But the thing is when friends ask him if we're going to have kids his reply is, "if her ex & her parents weren't around." What does my ex or my parents have anything to do with him & I having a child?! He thinks my parents will try to push back into my life in order to see their grandchild, but that's not upto them, that's upto him & I. I'm hurt & confused by his reasoning. I'm also hurt that he may not want to share a new different life with me. Could it be a commitment issue? Could it be because I did leave my ex eventhough we had kids together? I'd love to get other's BFs & husbands opinions on this.