Being newly married (for the 3rd time) and reading Racerchick's posts, has got me thinking. What really hit me was "he thinks $2,000 in the bank is broke, and I think $2 in the account is broke. I would love to have $2,000 in my account." Holy cow, are you my twin in an alternative universe?
Although I do think we will keep our individual accounts, and we do need to get to the bank and at least be signers on the other account so we can have access if something were to hapen to to other, but a TRUE joint account that is used as such in the pracitical sense? I don't know.
How would that even look? Thought about us each putting a set amount in each month for strictly household bills. DH tends to be loosey goosey about that. Right now, if I were to be picky, he is a month behind. Granted, he paid for most of our trip. And our rings, etc. But it is so hard to get through to him how him paying for other things may be very kind and generous, but doesn't pay the bills. He is kind of starting to get it. He gave me money to pay bills right before we left on our trip. So, he is getting there.
The other night he said "I am going to let you take me out to dinner," and I said "I couldn't even if I wanted to. The money I do have has to last until payday."
Anyways, with the boards not being as active as they used to be, I thought it might spark discussion. DH and I are making progress, but not where I would like us to be quite yet in this area. (i.e. Same physical therapist. He pays his huge bill in a couple of months, and a year later I still owe them $200. Stuff like that.)
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