Hi I wrote on this board a couple of months back "He wants to take a step back" I got a lot of thoughtful and great suggestions and thanks to all who responded. Well after several weeks of no contact, he texted me and ask me to go to dinner and a movie with him. I still am very much in love with him so I saw this as an answered prayer and went. It was wonderful like we never even were apart, he was so attentive, we had so much fun. I didnt bring any relationship stufff up, and neither did he. We just had a great time, and no we didnt get intimate, he gave me a kiss goodnight just like he did on out first date last June. So since then we have had a couple more dates, and still no talk from him about where any of this is going, I have not asked Im just enjoying the times together and have no expectations . Im not going to pressure him, I figure if he wants to see me he wil contact me and if Im busy he makes other arrangements, Im not waiting around for him Im living my life one day at a time. Anyway I guess what I need help with is I just want to be with him so much more, I just know in my heart that he is what I want and need, I know that I am settling because its not the relationship I want, but I cant seem to get him out of my head, and if hes come back is he trying to give us another try or am I just an option when he has nothing better to do? He truely is a good man, he broke up with me because he felt like he was "using me" he knew that I had feelings for him and he didnt feel the same, for me, so I really dont think hes using me now....His mom and I talk she tells me hes not dating or seeing anyone else..hes been really busy with school and work, He told me back when he broke up with me he didnt see himself in a relationship for a long time that he wanted to work on himself and figure out what makes him happy, figure out who he is etc...So I guess Im still just so torn as to wether to see if he has changed his mind and see where this goes,?? and in the meantime just continue as I have been doing my own thing, dating other people and continue to see him .....at least until I find someone else that I might want to pursue a relationship with?? Im so confused can you tell?? lol Its just really hard to give up on a good man/good heart/ we get along so well and have wonderful chemistry its all so hard to find....anyone else that has gone thru something like this please respond....any help suggestions would be great Thankyou! .