also, would you ever turn down your wife if she indicated she was in the mood? My husband complained that I don't initiate sex enough, but I don't think he's always gets my signals. Is it enough to wear sexy clothes, panites, be more playful and physical, or do I need to just come right out and say I want to have sex? What do you like for you wife to do to let you know she's interested? I hate coming right out and saying something, especially if he's stressing about work or in a bad mood. I don't want to be turned down.