Been a long time since I posted last...with all the iVillage posting issues...(miss this board!)
Just wanted to let you know that we got married last week...Justice of the Peace ceremony (quick and easy)...This has been a very difficult year for both of us. I lost my job as a school librarian this year and for years prior I had been a classroom teacher. However, I had changed districts twice before (as a teacher), before I landed my school librarian job. Therefore, I didn't have the kind of senority I would've needed as a teacher (or a librarian) to have kept my job. Sadly, school librarians aren't mandated by my state on the elementary level, so when districts start to have financial trouble (as all of the districts in my state are now having), they look to cut any programs/services that aren't mandated.
Needless to say, I was quite shocked and scared (as I am the main breadwinner in our relationship-nor have I ever been without a job since I was 15 years old). Thankfully, I did see the whole situation coming (so I was able to be proactive right away). I thought that since I am both a certified classroom teacher/school librarian, that while it wouldn't be an easy road, I would find something. It didn't quite work out that way. I applied to postings for both positions. I never got a call for any classroom positions (this was surprising to me), but looking back, maybe not so surprising b/c I now have "too much" experience and districts aren't willing/able to pay for that experience anymore. I did go on many interviews for school librarian, but it's not so nice out there right now. Districts know they have more candidates than they can handle, so the competition is fierce (for not many job openings). Luckily, I was able to find a school library position in a truly nice elementary school. I really believe that it is the kind of work environment that will be great! That actually is such a positive change, b/c for the past 4 years in my old school (the work environment has been really unhealthy), it's one of those things where I never would've "asked" to lose my job and have this huge change come into my life, but I knew that I needed it.
Unfortunately, I am taking a HUGE paycut and our health insurance had to change. Previously, DH was on my health insurance as a domestic partner. The new school doesn't offer that option. DH taking health insurance from his employer would mean a huge salary reduction on his part (and as it is he really can't afford that)...So therefore, we kind of knew the "time had come". Eight years later, while it isn't exactly "the way" we wanted it to come about, it was probably the right decision taking into account all of those factors.
While I wish I could say that the ongoing animosity with his ex, his CS issues, parental alienation, etc. has stopped, but unfortunately it has only intensified...Hard to believe that eight years has gone by and nothing seems to change...
Our relationship is as strong as it has always been. He was amazingly supportive through the hell I was going through for the last few months!
Miss everyone on this board!