I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year 4 months. He is my first series boyfriend and I find the whole situation very confusing. On one hand, he is very understanding of some health - energy issues that I have, gives me unexpected presents,and is very appreciative of the way I look. He has spoken about loving me than denied it, suggested we go get married and I have told him we are not ready.
The problem is I just don't feel I am a priority in his life. He doesn't just want to hang out and do stuff and if he does it is just to get something done he has to get done. For example, we were supposed to go on a date to the mall yesterday to window shop and watch a movie and we had both agreed to this. Instead, he brough his new mac computer to the apple store and asked questions about his computer. He didn't want to look around any stores I wanted to go in he wanted to take his new computer back to future shop and trade it for one with more memmory. We did this went back to the mall because it was closer to the mall and I was so hungry, we ate, and we went to look at movies he wasn't even interested and said next wekk but I really have my doubts about that. He didn't even want to go back to his apartment and hang out because his cousin was there. I mean we don't have to make out or have sex we can just play on our computers or whatever together even with his cousin there. But he wasn't interested.
All he wants to do is have sex ( which is also very unsatisifying because he is hesitant to touch me down there for some reason in the last half year and I can't come with him just in me. He doesn't do foreplay and if he does he just hurts me. I told him this but he doesn't seem to get how not to be rough. the only thing we have going is great affection and comfortablness with each other.He is new to sex and so am I but if I suggest or say something he just thinks Im wrong. In fact, he just thinks I am wrong in general.
He doesn't want my help but he wants me around, he doesn't know what he wants. For instance, I am a certified interior decorator and he wouldn't even let me help with his new place. He is very picky, tells me I eat too much when I watch my diet so carefully because I can't so cardiovascular excercise medically. He is rare to give compliments, hard to talk to. He is quite and doesn't share stories or things with me easily about his life out work up North in Alberta as a chef, or about any of his friends besides his cousin, and he never wants to do what I want to do, he wants to do what he wants to do in the time he wants to do it. Yesterday at the mall for instance, he slept in to 2 pm, the time he was supposed to pick me up and we didn't leave until 4 pm. He is often late and will do stuff late the night before even though he has plans with me.
I know he is a quite guy but the lack of conversation is killing me also the lack of explanations for simple questions like what are you doing right now? I'll text him and he will only answer the questions he wants to answer and when we talk he seems to not hear half the stuff I say and Im not even talking a lot.
He holds my hand, picks me up, most often make sure he pays, he is very good at calming me down and telling me everything is alright. I tried to break up with him and he convinced me to stay with him that he got that i wanted to be a priority in his life. But Im exhausted trying to figure out what is going on with him because he hardly talks and doesnt' tell the whole story of what is going in situations for example, like his computer. I really like him and I'm starting to question why? What do I do? I know I'm not perfect but he's foreign and it's like he doesn't even have common courtesy towards me to tell me he'll be late, or what time he wants to go out, or that he has to get something done.