I have dating my boyfriend for sometime (there are clearly wedding bells, and a family about to form here) but recently his ex (and while not alaways a B-word, she is clearly not too bright) has begun living with a man (first telling us he was "just a friend" then casually showing off that him and his 2 year old are living with them). this man is a loser and a bum. He scared away the nanny (just a summer nanny but a wonderful woman) by hitting on her in front of the kids, he has smoked in front of them, and cussed. Her own family (my boyfriebnds ex) is concerned, and urged him to talk to her. At first he told them no, it wasnt his business who she dated as long as there was no emotional or physical harm to the kids. Then we find out he has a record that is pretty long, that includes an domestic battery charge in 2002 and then he was in jail for about a year and half (released May 2013) for non payment of child support on a child he does not live with.
I don't know what to do, I encourage my boyfriend to speak with his ex, share his concerns for the kids (and her) but I'm not sure where my boundaries should be, what I should encourage him to do or not do, or anything. Sorry to ramble, I am just beyond confused at this point.
help if you can :) Thanks!!