This may not be the best forum on iVillage to discuss this, I don't know, but I thought I'd ask.
I'm 49. On a recent trip to the west coast, I met a very cool 29 year old Asian girl. One of the most petite girls I ever met: she's 5'-1" tall, 83 lbs., has very long black hair, and is a teacher in grammar school. We hit it off and our first date ended up lasting four days. She seems well grounded and is absolutely the most sweet and affectionate thing I ever met. She doesn't seem to want anything; certainly not a gold digger. She has only had two boyfriends previously, which struck me as odd because she is very attractive and has a ridiculously sexy figure. All I can say is that there was instant attraction and we were holding hands and doing piggyback rides etc. within an hour, and she stayed with me at my hotel for the rest of the trip. It was like everything was in fast-forward but on the other hand she was a normal, sweet, innocent girl.
Anyhow, when I first met her, she didn't have any tattoos or piercings whatsoever. We were out shopping on, the third day after meeting her, and we saw a girl with a bellybutton piercing and I laughed and said, I love those (which I do, at least on slim girls). She goes, "wow, I would be glad to get one if you want."
"Really?" I asked, thinking she was kidding.
"Why not." So we go to a piercing place, and without the slightest drama she gets it pierced. Said it didn't hurt a bit. I thought it looked amazing.
I came home to NY about ten days ago, and she is always texting about how much she misses me, etc. and that she thinks she has found true love.
Anyhow. Today she got a small tattoo in the center of her lower back, consisting of my name inside a heart. She texted several pics of herself with it. This isn't a henna tattoo; it's the real thing.
I was instantly revulsed. It seems so tacky. And why would a pretty girl get a permanent tattoo with my name, for all the world to see, after knowing me for just four days? She's probably one of the nicest people I've ever met -- at least based on our limited time together -- but this to me shows no judgment whatsoever. I texted her that I honestly wasn't crazy about it, and I really thought it was awfully, awfully quick to make up her mind, and she just said, "oh well, I can't really change it now." Won't they be highly concerned about that at a public school, if they see it? I mean, who doesn't love a free spirit? But this is a little excessive. All the warm and lovey-dovey texts and emails keep pouring and I'm a bit confused by the whole thing.
How do I respond to her? Many thanks for any thoughts.