To try to make a really long story short, I went down to the place on the beach for a couple of days (invited by a guy R) and immediately found out that he is in a relationship with the woman I wondered about (M). The ironic part is that in getting to know them better, I discovered that I wouldn't want to be in a relationship w/ him and that I really liked her. She & I had some good time to talk & get to know each other. The first day was supremely awkward for me. The weather was bad so we couldn't go to the beach and it was in a very small town w/ not much to do. Oh and I was under the impression that more people would be there all week but it was just the 3 of us--great! I said "are we going out to dinner tonight?" but she had stuff to cook (stuff that I didn't really like--I mean it was not as bad as I feared but definitely not something I would pick to eat.) Then the bed I had was the hardest most uncomfortable mattress--so much that I actually woke up in pain and said I just can't sleep here any more and went down to sleep on the living room sofa. Today was much better--about 10 people came down for a party and they were all nice people & we were having fun eating & drinking. So I guess live & learn. I'm glad I never said anything flirty to him. I actually said to M when we were talking that R never told me that they were a couple--she said she had found that to be a problem because another woman asked him out & he told her then that he was dating M and I said that's not really fair to the women either because it's embarrassing--he should introduce M as his GF. She said she tries to head things off by doing that herself. I guess privately he is very affectionate but he doesn't like any public gestures, even hand holding. I'm not one for a lot of PDA but I would expect if I had a BF for 7 months, that he would at least be telling people that M is my GF--I don't think he does it to get other women, I just think he's clueless--which is why he probably wasn't very clear on the arrangements and who was going to be there when. If he had said other people are just coming for a party on Friday I would have just come then. But I guess it was good to learn about all the ways that I wouldn't like him because now I am not disappointed at all that they are together. I really have to stop making these fantasies in my head though.